Sunday, August 04, 2013

IS IT OK TO SPANK A CHILD?

The debate over the use of corporal punishment in the home continues to be a controversial and sensitive issue. Some parents view spanking as a completely acceptable form of discipline, while others think it’s never appropriate and abusive to children.

 What’s Your Take? Is spanking  an acceptable form of discipline?




Comments

1. Barry said...

No,we have to stop!Dr. Alvin F. Poussaint, a Harvard Medical School psychiatrist who has studied mental health issues and parenting in African-American communities, is a leading voice against corporal punishment. It’s an uphill battle.

“It’s culturally embedded in America that spanking is a legitimate and good way to discipline children. But the fact is, nearly all studies, except for a few, say it is not a good way of disciplining and can actually produce damage,” Poussaint said. “We have such damage in the black community, when you add to that parents beating their kids, it’s sending the message that violence is an OK way to solve problems.”

Nevertheless, Poussaint said, questioning corporal punishment can provoke a defensive or angry reaction from parents.

“Usually some people stand up and say, ‘Well, I was beaten as a kid and I turned out pretty well.’ Well, did they?” Poussaint said. “If you dig more deeply, you don’t really know that… beating may have left scars in them that they don’t really understand.”
“Violence begets violence, anger begets anger, and the loss of control makes it all worse,” he said.

2. Grace said...

I have had a change of heart. The violence in our communities among ourselves. College students being beaten to become a frat or soro. Even band members are hazed. Just as you correctly noted the origin of sagging pants,the origin of spanking in our community goes back to slavery.For as many that say they were spanked and are fine,there are just as many who were not spanked and doing fine. I have attached an article that led to my change of heart.

3. Anonymous said...

For those that say that the bible condoned beating your children,please note that it also condoned and gave instructions for slaves.The phrase "spare the rod and spoil the child" is often incorrectly attributed to the Christian Bible. It does not appear there. It was first written in a poem by Samuel Butler in 1664.
Prov 13:24: "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes (diligently)."
bullet Prov 19:18: "Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying."
bullet Prov 22:15: "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."
bullet Prov 23:13: "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die."
bullet Prov 23:14: "Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell (Shoel)."
bullet Prov 29:15: "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."
The Bible also sets minimum rules for the conditions under which slaves were to be kept.The Bible contains several references to slavery, which was a common practice in antiquity. The Bible stipulates the treatment of bondsmen, especially in the Old Testament. There are also references to slavery in the New Testament. Male Israelite slaves were to be offered release after seven years of service, with some conditions.

4. ManChild said...

My Mom beat my butt as a child. I am pretty normal except for constant twitch in my right eye whenever I see a tree branch. lol. On second thought maybe I am not OK

5. Susan said...

People who as children experienced the “powerlessness” of frequent spankings report a disproportionately greater interest later in life to own guns. And they seem more prone to violence themselves. In a study of 45,000 ninth-graders conducted in 2007-08, those kids who had been beaten by their parents were five times as likely to commit repeated crimes or to use cannabis, and missed school four times more frequently for ten days a year or more.

6. marilyn! said...

OK wait....stay with me now: first, it is not socially acceptable..but it is done. Secondly, the U.S enforces peace with troops and warfare,right? So, its okay to seek peaceful resolutions from violence on a larger scale but not within the home? If its not okay within the home then reflect that in our international policies and actions. Spankings are not the problem...lack of control is



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